Anyway, I ran into an acquaintance the other day whose son happens to have SPD. She asked me a very interesting question, which was, whether I tell Danny that he is different and has SPD?
I was surprised by the question because I hadn't given it much thought before. I have never discussed it with Danny because it hasn't really seemed relevant. I don't think he sees himself as different from other kids. Maybe it is because he is young or maybe (fingers crossed) it is because his self-esteem is pretty high. I don't know. Also, I don't think he has really ever seriously been made fun of because of his sensory "issues." And to be honest, I am not sure he would really pick up on it, even if he is teased. Reading social cues is not one of his strengths, one of the many reasons why his therapist and past teacher think we should have him reevaluated for autism.
It did get me to thinking, though, especially now that I am still concerned that Danny has autism (the school social worker and I filled out an Asperger's assessment, and Danny got a really high score on the test).
So, I am wondering how do you handle something like this? Do you make a big deal of the kid's differences? If Danny is diagnosed with some form of autism, when should we tell him? How do you have a conversation like that?
See, my concern is that if we make too big of a deal of his "disorders" that he will see them as an excuse for not trying. Or that he will feel like there is something wrong with him. The way I see it, we all have our weaknesses, our quirks that make our lives more difficult in some ways. On the other hand, I don't want him to feel ashamed of his differences.
What have you done (those of you with kids who have some differences)? Or what would you do in this situation? Please share.